Monday 4 November 2013

When you host a party, better to invite the poor than your undeserving family

Monday of the Thirty-first week in Ordinary Time  4 November 2013

St. Charles Borromeo, Archbishop of Milan († 1584) -

Rom 11:29-36.


Brothers and sisters: The gifts and the call of God are irrevocable.
Just as you once disobeyed God but have now received mercy because of their disobedience, so they have now disobeyed in order that, by virtue of the mercy shown to you, they too may now receive mercy.
For God delivered all to disobedience, that he might have mercy upon all.
Oh, the depth of the riches and wisdom and knowledge of God! How inscrutable are his judgments and how unsearchable his ways!
"For who has known the mind of the Lord or who has been his counselor?"
"Or who has given him anything that he may be repaid?"
For from him and through him and for him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen.


Ps 69(68):30-31.33-34.36-37.

I am afflicted and in pain;
let your saving help, O God, protect me.
I will praise the name of God in song,
and I will glorify him with thanksgiving.

“See, you lowly ones, and be glad;
you who seek God, may your hearts revive!
For the LORD hears the poor,
and his own who are in bonds he spurns not.”

For God will save Zion
and rebuild the cities of Judah.
They shall dwell in the land and own it,
and the descendants of his servants shall inherit it,
and those who love his name shall inhabit it.
Luke 14:12-14.

On a sabbath Jesus went to dine at the home of one of the leading Pharisees. He said to the host who invited him, "When you hold a lunch or a dinner, do not invite your friends or your brothers or your relatives or your wealthy neighbours, in case they may invite you back and you have repayment.
Rather, when you hold a banquet, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind; blessed indeed will you be because of their inability to repay you. For you will be repaid at the resurrection of the righteous."


Commentary of the day:

I received an email today from a former best friend from my past who has not been in contact for a while. It was a reply to an email I sent him last week. There was no falling out or anything, just the busy-ness of life I presume that makes communication often lack priority.
In my email to him I did lament the fact that my parents, family and friends have largely ignored the fact that I now have a baby.

I received only minimal messages from people and they were mostly brief congratulations on facebook. I have to say it was slightly disappointing, but as any who know me know, I don’t feel sadness or other human emotions since being a police chaplain and witnessing lots of tragic events and deaths. Nothing really makes me feel sad anymore.
Anyway, some of his comments are relevant to what I want to comment on the Gospel of today:

“Congratulations are in order, I think.  Things have changed I expect.
You don't really think your family would forget how you blindsided them, we did warn you. You have to realise that people who respected you and loved you and thought you felt the same, probably feel really hurt and cranky on how you ditched them for a life in a third world country. It has left them wondering, were your ever legitimate or authentic in what your said and did as a priest.    
The reason people don't like josephina is that she alone is responsible for stealing you away from your friends, family and country.
People still cannot believe you chose that third world dump over Australia.  People think you have had some sort of mind meltdown.
Anyway, no use going on about it, nothing you haven’t heard before...”
I turn fifty this year and Josefina was planning a birthday party. I felt uncomfortable about it knowing that none of my family or friends would be coming. She expected that her family would probably just come for the free feed not because they care for me, so she had another recommendation.

We would likely have spent a certain budgeted amount on a party to entertain my family and friends (presuming they would come) but since they won’t be, we will be following Jesus’ advice and be inviting the poor, the lame, the blind... in fact everyone in the surrounding area who are all very poor will be welcome.
I am not saying this to boast, but just explaining how in my parish life I already did this quite regularly. We held parish events that entailed fund raising that gave money to St Vincent de Paul society who regularly fed the homeless poor in the Penrith area. It is a fantastic experience when you feed someone who has no hope of paying you back.
I am saying this to encourage you to try to share your prosperity with those who have less and experience the blessings you receive from doing so. As it has been often quoted and very little imitated, "It is better to give than receive".

Yesterday a poor neighbour happened to be passing while we were having a birthday party for Jane (Michelle’s older sister) who invited only 4 of her classmates to our home. We had plenty of food left over so I invited that neighbour to stay and eat. He was too shy to come into the house and just wanted to take some food home so that he could share it with his five kids and pregnant wife. I put a stainless steel spoon into the bag with his food and he said, “I bring back..”
I told him, “No that's your souvenir for coming..”
In fact, its not even my spoon. I don't even know how many times I came home with a spoon in my pocket from attending parties. I didn't deliberately steal them but just inadvertently put them there as I didn't know where to put them after finishing the meal on the paper plate. I have so many pieces of not matching cutlery that I feel it would be wrong of me to keep so I have given them away.

Jesus knew when He taught His disciples this lesson that they would feel the joy of having poor people attend your parties and realise that they may be materially poor but what they give back in love and appreciation is so much more valuable than another invite back to your ungrateful relos'.


Saint Thérèse of the Child Jesus (1873-1897), Carmelite, Doctor of the Church - Autobiographical manuscript C)

"Blessed indeed will you be because of their inability to repay you"


I have noticed (and this is very natural) that the most saintly Sisters are the most loved. We seek their company; we render them services without their asking... On the other hand, imperfect souls are not sought out. No doubt we remain within the limits of religious politeness in their regard, but we generally avoid them, fearing lest we say something which isn't too amiable... This is the conclusion I draw from this: I must seek out in recreation, on free days, the company of the Sisters who are the least agreeable to me in order to carry out with regard to these wounded souls the office of the good Samaritan.

A word, an amiable smile, often suffice to make a sad soul bloom; but it is not principally to attain this end that I wish to practice charity, for I know I would soon become discouraged: a word I shall say with the best intention will perhaps be interpreted wrongly. Also, not to waste my time, I want to be friendly with everybody (and especially with the least amiable Sisters) to give joy to Jesus and respond to the counsel He gives in the Gospel in almost these words: “When you give a dinner or a supper, do not invite your friends, or your brethren, or your relatives, or your rich neighbours, lest perhaps they also invite you in return, and a recompense be made to you. But when you give a feast, invite the poor, the crippled, the lame, the blind; and blessed shall you be, because they have nothing to repay you with, and your Father who sees in secret will reward you” (cf. Lk 14,12-14; Mt 6,4-5) What banquet could a Carmelite offer her Sisters except a spiritual banquet of loving and joyful charity?

As far as I am concerned, I know no other and I want to imitate Saint Paul who “rejoiced with those who rejoice” (Rm 12,15). It is true he wept with the afflicted and tears must sometimes appear in the feast I wish to serve, but I shall always try to change these tears into joy (Jn 16,20), since “the Lord loves a cheerful giver” (2Cor 9,7).

 

Saturday 2 November 2013

reflection on Mass readings for All Souls..


The Commemoration of All the Faithful Departed (All Souls) 2 November 2013
 

Wisdom 3:1-9.

The souls of the just are in the hand of God, and no torment shall touch them. They seemed, in the view of the foolish, to be dead; and their passing away was thought an affliction
and their going forth from us, utter destruction. But they are in peace.
For if before men, indeed, they be punished, yet is their hope full of immortality;  Chastised a little, they shall be greatly blessed, because God tried them and found them worthy of himself.
As gold in the furnace, he proved them, and as sacrificial offerings he took them to himself.
In the time of their visitation they shall shine, and shall dart about as sparks through stubble; They shall judge nations and rule over peoples, and the LORD shall be their King forever.
Those who trust in him shall understand truth, and the faithful shall abide with him in love: Because grace and mercy are with his holy ones, and his care is with the elect.


Ps 27(26):1.4.7.8.9.13-14.

The LORD is my light and my salvation;
whom should I fear?
The LORD is my life's refuge;
of whom should I be afraid?

One thing I ask of the LORD
this I seek:
To dwell in the house of the LORD
all the days of my life,
That I may gaze on the loveliness of the LORD
and contemplate his temple. 

Hear, O LORD, the sound of my call;
have pity on me, and answer me.
Of you my heart speaks; you my glance seeks.

Your presence, O LORD, I seek.
Hide not your face from me;
do not in anger repel your servant.
You are my helper: cast me not off.

I believe that I shall see the bounty of the LORD
in the land of the living.
Wait for the LORD with courage;
be stout-hearted, and wait for the LORD.



Rom 6:3-9.

Brothers and sisters: Are you unaware that we who were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death?
We were indeed buried with him through baptism into death, so that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might live in newness of life.
For if we have grown into union with him through a death like his, we shall also be united with him in the resurrection.
We know that our old self was crucified with him, so that our sinful body might be done away with, that we might no longer be in slavery to sin.
For a dead person has been absolved from sin.
If, then, we have died with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with him.
We know that Christ, raised from the dead, dies no more; death no longer has power over him.


Mt 25:31-46.

Jesus said to his disciples: «When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit upon his glorious throne,
and all the nations will be assembled before him. And he will separate them one from another, as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats.
He will place the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.
Then the king will say to those on his right, 'Come, you who are blessed by my Father. Inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.
For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me,
naked and you clothed me, ill and you cared for me, in prison and you visited me.'
Then the righteous will answer him and say, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink?
When did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you?
When did we see you ill or in prison, and visit you?'
And the king will say to them in reply, 'Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.'
Then he will say to those on his left, 'Depart from me, you accursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels.
For I was hungry and you gave me no food, I was thirsty and you gave me no drink,
a stranger and you gave me no welcome, naked and you gave me no clothing, ill and in prison, and you did not care for me.'
Then they will answer and say, 'Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or ill or in prison, and not minister to your needs?'
He will answer them, 'Amen, I say to you, what you did not do for one of these least ones, you did not do for me.'
And these will go off to eternal punishment, but the righteous to eternal life."


Commentary of the day :

I attended All Souls Mass today especially remembering all the people whose funerals I have celebrated over the years I was a priest. The Mass was in Waray, the dialect of this particular region and although I couldn’t understand the readings I could recall them from heart as I always ponder these words of Jesus and especially the book of Wisdom first reading (which is often chosen for requiems).

The theme of the Gospel reminds us that those who are chosen for eligibility for the kingdom of heaven are those who saw Jesus in the poor or those who suffer. To refuse solace to someone in need is equivalent to ignoring Jesus.

I can proudly say I have done all of those things: fed the hungry, clothed the men I have found to be naked, visited the sick in hospitals and in their homes, visited prisoners (and even celebrated Mass in two Cebu gaols for hundreds of inmates), and never refused anything to anyone who asked for it (even if I didn’t think they deserved it!)
I don’t tell you that to boast but just to explain that there are very few people outside of priests who have the opportunity and wherewithal to be able to fulfil all those pre-requisites of Heavenly entrance.

But our Lord didn’t tell you that you have to go out and look for people in all those categories to serve Him. Only that if you do meet someone (a Jesus in disguise) and you do not offer kindness and sacrificial generosity, you can kiss eternal happiness goodbye...

 

Aphrahat (?-c.345), monk and Bishop near Mosul
Expositions, no.22 ; SC 359

Our dead live for him


Devout, wise and good people are not afraid of death in view of the great hope they have in what lies before them. Every day they think of death as of a departure and of the last day as when the offspring of Adam will be born. The apostle Paul says: “Death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over those who did not sin, as has happened with all the children of Adam” (Rm 5,14.12)... It has happened, too, in all Moses' descendants to the end of the world. However, Moses declared that its rule would be destroyed; death thought to hold everyone captive and rule over them for ever..., but when the Holy One called to Moses from the heart of the bush he said to him: “I am the God of Abraham, of Isaac and of Jacob” (Ex 3,6). When it heard these words, death was terrified, it trembled with fear understanding that... God is Lord over the dead and the living and would come one day when men would escape from its darkness. Now Jesus our Saviour has repeated these words to the Sadducees and said: “He is not God of the dead, for all are alive for Him” (Lk 20,38)...

For Jesus has come, the one who has put death to death. He put on a body of Adam's race, has been nailed to the cross and tasted death. It has understood that he would be descending to its abode. Anxiously death fastened its gates but he has broken down its gates, entered in and started to seize those it was holding there. The dead, seeing light in the darkness, raised their heads from their prison house and saw the glory of the Messiah King... And death, seeing how the darkness began to disperse and the righteous to rise, knew that at the end of time he would release every prisoner from its power.